2 Years Syndrome and Correct Approaches

Tolkido, November 19, 2021

The age of 2, which is a natural process of growth, is actually defined as a transition from infancy to childhood. The 2-year-old syndrome, which is seen as the first step of children's individualization between 18-36 months, brings some difficulties for both children and parents. Known as “Terrible Two”, this period is a healthy and natural process for your child's development. In this period, stubbornness, tantrums, saying no to everything and aggressive attitudes come to the fore. To manage this difficult period carefully, it is necessary to understand what is the reason for all this.

We observe that after babies turn their first years of age, their skills such as crawling and walking slowly begin to develop. With the end of breastfeeding, a new era begins for babies. They can now feed independently of their mothers, and can travel from one place to another without needing to be held. With the confidence that comes with some new skills like this, they are now tempted to assert their autonomy. In a way, this period can be seen as the first adolescence period.

In this period, children They try to prove themselves by trying to get out of their control.

Demands seen in this period can also bring downfalls. In infants whose language and communication skills are not fully developed yet, severe tantrums can be seen with the disappointment of not being able to achieve something in the stage of childhood. The reason for these fits of anger, crying, shouting is actually the child's inability to express himself.

Despite the desires, curiosity and thoughts of 2-year-old children who want to dominate their environment, In this period, their vocabulary and language development are not wide enough for them to express themselves yet. For this reason, they may try to impose what they want to do by crying, lying on the ground, throwing objects and even showing violence to those around them. It is imperative that you be calm and patient to resolve this situation. Staying calm and allowing your child to express their emotions in a controlled way is very important for their emotional and mental development.

In this period, children may have difficulties in how to behave, especially since children are constantly stubborn with their parents.

  • Your child in this period remember that he's trying to prove his individuality to himself, to those around him, and especially to his parents.

    With that in mind, don't forget to commend it after an act you think is right. don't. Help your child express their feelings and make them feel that you are supportive of all their emotional turmoil.

  • Never choose to use harsh punishments or expose them to learned helplessness.

  • Making fun of your child's displays of anger or overreacting may cause him to turn it into a game.

    Because kids this age don't understand your irony yet. The calmer and more controlled you are, the better you can manage crises.

  • Use short and simple sentences instead of giving long and obscure explanations to your child.

    Speaking to him at eye level when speaking or giving a warning will make him feel taken seriously. Make your explanations with short explanations by giving examples from people and objects in your daily life or by giving them in games. Thus, you can achieve a common communication.

  • Always make him feel that you trust him as his parent.

    It is very important to find a balance of boundaries during this period to support your child's development and reduce crises. Limiting your child too much and giving him complete freedom as well as warning his every move can negatively affect his personality development. Don't be afraid to assign responsibilities and tasks that you think you can do on your own, such as putting her toys in her box or bringing her glass to the kitchen. Let her make her own choices whenever possible. For example, ask what jacket she would like to wear when going out and show two options.

  • Make sure to match each other as parents.

2 year old syndrome when does it end?

There may be cases where the 2-year-old syndrome usually lasts 3 – 3.5 years, sometimes even up to 4 years old. This period, which differs according to the personal and emotional development of each child, ends when your child's mental, emotional and language development reaches a certain maturity. Keeping in mind that this is a temporary period throughout this process, avoid making descriptions of your child as bad, spoiled, not well-bred. If you find it difficult to cope with the 2-year-old syndrome or you feel that you need help, do not hesitate to consult a specialist.

Remember. Every child and every parent-child relationship is unique. Keep in mind that each parent is an expert on their child, and that “ will know the best ” in their relationship with her.


`Vincent Iannelly, What Are the Terrible Twos? (As of 21/10/2021 https://www.verywellfamily. Retrieved from com/terrible-twos-and-your-toddler-2634394)`

`Anna Davies, How to Deal With the Terrible Twos. (As of 21/10/2021 https://www.thebump.com/a/terrible- Retrieved from twos.)`

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